arXiv:2611.14042v1 Announce Type: new Abstract: Integrated Access and Backhaul (IAB) is a key enabler for cost-effective millimeter-wave (mmWave) densification, yet practical deployments are strongly constrained by the spatial availability of fiber-connected IAB donors. Variations in donor topologies reshape both the initial coverage footprint and the feasible multi-hop backhaul expansion patterns, causing planning policies trained on a single topology to generalize poorly. This paper studies cross-topology generalization for resilience-aware IAB deployment under coverage and transport feasibility requirements. We formulate IAB deployment as a constrained Markov decision process that couples access coverage satisfaction with multi-hop transport feasibility, including hop-by-hop rate-budget degradation and a minimum parent-connectivity requirement for fault tolerance. To solve the resulting large discrete planning problem, we propose a graph-based actor-critic approach that uses a Graph Attention Network v2 (GATv2) encoder with Proximal Policy Optimization (PPO), and we develop a multi-stage curriculum learning strategy that progressively increases constraint difficulty and scenario diversity for stable training and transferable policies. In a 60 GHz urban simulation over a 1000 m x 1000 m area with multiple donor layouts, the trained policy satisfies the minimum coverage requirement of 98% with fewer deployed IAB nodes than learning and heuristic baselines, and maintains higher coverage under progressive backhaul failures. The results demonstrate that curriculum-trained graph-based reinforcement learning can improve deployment efficiency and resilience while transferring across heterogeneous IAB donor topologies without retraining.